The Ego, Social Media and Self Worth

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I’ve been thinking about social media lately.There are a lot of things I love about Instagram. I like that I can keep in touch with friends who are far away, make new connections and learn about new things.

However, there is a dark side to social media. The problem comes when we begin to attribute likes and follows to self worth, personal or of others. The reason I’ve been thinking about this is because I’ve been thinking and learning about EGO. In yoga, the ego is overactive, if we begin to attribute our successes to our character. It is seen as under active if we attribute our failures to our flaws or lack of character. Ideally, in yoga, we would maintain the same sense of self worth regardless of our success or failures. While I love the idea of that freedom from the power success and failure I find this to be a bit unrealistic and lofty. In psychology we develop an integrated whole sense of self through many internal and external variables such as our family, job, friends, partners, self perception, skills, character, religion etc. The ego is not the enemy. The ego is actually very important for self preservation and protection. It is required in order for us to stand up for ourselves and have free thought. However, it must be balanced.The problem arises when we allow external variables to have control over our self worth that are not worthy of that power. Likes, follows and comparing our circumstances to another’s are quick and easy ways to feel our self worth drop.

No one has a perfect life. Social media is every persons life highlights and this creates a divide in how connected we feel. We don’t get to see the ugly, messy, hard times. Yesterday I spent at least an hour crying, overwhelmed and frustrated and today I’m posting a pretty photo. I’m not suggesting that we all have to share our deepest dark moments (that’s up to each individual) but I do think we need to remind ourselves to consider what should truly have power over our self worth.  I don’t know about you, but the people I feel most connected to are those that have seen my darkness and I’ve seen theirs and we both stayed. This is real ‘liking’ real ‘following’ and real connection. So, always remember you are enough. I am enough. We are all enough, flaws and all.