I’ve been meaning to write this blog for a long time now but each time I sit down to write it, I have the feeling that I actually don’t know what self love fully means yet. While I still feel that way today, I realized that maybe that’s the key to self love! Self love is a process of discovering ourselves continually over and over again and then choosing to stand next to who we are in this moment on this day and support that person. I don’t think there is one way to self love, I think everyone finds the people, places, and things in life that make their eyes light up and their hearts open and allowing ourselves to go towards those things even though fear, anxiety and worries come along is a process of choosing a life that is loving and kind to us. In this process we have to say goodbye to things to make space for the things that make us grow. This ability to set boundaries and know our own limits is also self love. It is the decision to observe what we need and then construct a life that makes us feel loved by the people we surround ourselves with, the places we visit, the things we eat, the activities we do, the thoughts we think and the content we consume.
I can honestly say that the times I have struggled the most with self love were times when I was unclear about what I needed and wanted out of life. I was unable to give myself what I needed because I didn’t even know what it was, and at that point self love was just meditating, soul searching and trying to find the things that made me feel full. Even after uncovering what I needed then it became a continually changing and growing process that must be updated regularly. Every day we have so many interaction and each one is an opportunity to learn about ourselves and the people around us. It is an opportunity to learn how to love and respect our own needs and the needs of others. It is not a selfish act. Deciding to understand ourselves on this level builds so much empathy and compassion for others because when we are truly honest with ourselves we are able to see the good, bad and ugly and accept it in others as well. All I know is that when I am truly loving myself I feel that I have enough love to give the people around me too.